https://twitter.com/CNNPolitics/status/966470869475381248 “I hear you.” Those words can be powerful. They can also be scripted. At his listening session with survivors of mass shootings at schools and families of victims, President Trump was photographed holding a notecard with five points. They included questions such as “What would you most want me to know about your experience?” … Continue reading “I hear you”
It’s so difficult to balance empathy with advice. This post from Joe Regalia in the ABA Before the Bar Blog achieves that balance in addressing a very sensitive subject: life after failing the bar exam. Joe acknowledges that the community of those who have failed the bar is something of a “secret society,” one that … Continue reading Supporting those who failed the bar
How can I be an ally? How can I let people know I’m really ready to listen? At the Georgia Association for Women Lawyers’ CLE on women in leadership held today at the State Bar of Georgia, several participants shared their desire to help and to listen. Discussions around #MeToo are bringing out stories suppressed sometimes for … Continue reading Ready to listen
Many thanks to Rhani M. Lott of Emory Law School for this guest post. “I do want to thank you, first, Judge Aquilina, for giving all of us the chance to reclaim our voices. Our voices were taken from us for so long, and I’m grateful beyond what I can express that you have given us the … Continue reading How Should Judges Listen to Victim Impact Statements?
Darktown by Thomas Mullen is the first book I’ve read this year, and I do recommend it. It’s a police-procedural suspense book set in Atlanta in 1948, the year the Atlanta Police Department opened a police precinct with the APD’s first Black officers. The APD, somewhat cleansed of its KKK elements (although not really), was … Continue reading Suppressive listening: Book review of Darktown
Today my Emory Law colleague Ben Chapman and I launched the fourth iteration of our class, Advanced Legal Writing: Blogging and Social Media for Lawyers. This is a "cool class" (according to an upcoming issue of the Emory magazine) where students explore and practice the genre of legal blogging. Their final exam is to select … Continue reading Tending your garden
In-house lawyer @J_Dot_J has described it most directly: Client: You probably have the coolest job. Yes. I stay awake at night, crippled with anxiety and my mind racing, so you don't have to. — JJ Lang Syne (@J_Dot_J) November 4, 2017 A law student once shared a related concept to describe his coping mechanism, especially … Continue reading Lawyer as anxiety filter?
Hygge has been called everything from “the art of creating intimacy,” “coziness of the soul,” and the “absence of annoyance,” to “taking pleasure from the presence of soothing things,” “cozy togetherness,” and … “cocoa by candlelight.” Hygge is an atmosphere and an experience, rather than about things. It is about being with the people we … Continue reading Hygge for lawyers
Last week’s allegations of sexual harassment against Judge Alex Kozinski brought a response by the judge: “I treat all of my employees as family and work very closely with most of them.” Invoking the family is not an entirely warm-and-fuzzy metaphor, as several have pointed out (hat tip to @gokpkd for pointing out this thread): … Continue reading Listening in the Family
Listen Like a Lawyer is pleased to share this Q&A with executive coach Greg Riggs. Greg is the former general counsel of a Fortune 100 company and he has also serve as Associate Dean at Emory Law School. Greg has devoted his career to professional development and now has a national practice as an executive … Continue reading Executive Coaching for Lawyers as Leaders